Did you know that your beliefs determine your reality? Your brain takes information from your senses, combines those sensations with your memories, and double-checks all of that against your beliefs about yourself, others, and the world. Your beliefs act like filters that let certain things in and keep other things out. Anything that aligns with … Continue reading Change Your Beliefs, Change Your Destiny
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Speaking My Truth
Ryran keeps telling me that I have to write a book to explain what has changed in me over the past year. He talks to other political figures and business leaders who complain about going to functions alone because their spouses are very uncomfortable in social situations. I get it. People who are naturally social … Continue reading Speaking My Truth
Time and Effort and Priorities, oh my!
How do you respond when you are confronted with the fact that your actions do not line up with what you think you value? For the past month or two I have been heavily involved with research and training about trauma-informed practice. The cliff-notes version is that most people have experienced traumatic events and those … Continue reading Time and Effort and Priorities, oh my!
Intentions for 2018
What are your intentions for this year? New year, new you? Good luck with that. My intentions are a little closer to where I am right now. New year, same me, different focus. I've learned that it is much easier to make incremental changes than it is to attempt an entire re-creation of myself. Maybe you're … Continue reading Intentions for 2018
Powerful Questions
Can you remember the last time someone asked you a question that changed the way you see everything? Maybe this is the question that changes things. If not, maybe this post will encourage you to start looking for those questions. There are some questions that can be answered rather quickly, usually with a yes or … Continue reading Powerful Questions
Stress is a Process
“People are disturbed not by a thing, but by their perception of a thing.” — Epictetus Stress is a process. Unfortunately, many of us don't know how that process works in our own lives, much less where and how to intervene in order to change the outcome of the process. Did you know that about … Continue reading Stress is a Process
Setback or Step Up: Does Your Team Have What it Takes to Overcome Challenges?
The pressure is on and your team is down by seven. It's time to make a choice. Do you fight to win or give up hope? Is your team resilient? Before you think this doesn't apply to you, let's explore what I mean by "team." What is a Team? Team: A Group of People Organized … Continue reading Setback or Step Up: Does Your Team Have What it Takes to Overcome Challenges?
I’ll Be Happy When…
I'll be happy when I'm 25. Then I will be out of college, married, and have a stable career. That seems crazy, right? Well, in my 17-year-old mind, it seemed like a logical conclusion. I thought that adults had it all figured out. The age of 25 came and went. I achieved those goals, but … Continue reading I’ll Be Happy When…
Which Weeds Are You Watering?
Which weeds are you watering? Notice the wording of the question. It doesn't ask if you are watering weeds. The question assumes that you are watering weeds. It doesn't imply that you should or shouldn't be watering weeds. That is up to you to figure out. The question simply asks for awareness of, and self-reflection … Continue reading Which Weeds Are You Watering?
Shadow Boxing
In the previous post, Shifting Shadows, I wrote about how we can identify and work with our own shadows. In essence, the shadow is composed of those parts of our personality that we hide from the world and possibly from ourselves.For some people, the shadow has characteristics of extreme anger, jealousy, greed, neediness, ignorance, etc. … Continue reading Shadow Boxing